Who is it that decided that Nicole Riche is better than
Marilyn Monroe? When was it that bikini’s became the desire versus a fabulous
one piece. Who made the bold statement that it was better to look like a
toothpick than a real women?
Looking back into the 50s, it was acceptable-even
desirable-to have curves, and some meat on your bones. However today, it seems
to be the desire of every women to get a flat stomach, a small butt, and rock a
string bikini. There seems to be a huge contrast between today and the times of
Marilyn.
The decision that a salad is better than a brownie, or that
an XS is better than a Medium-was one that overtime has become the desired look
of every women out there.
It’s not the question of people being unhealthy(on either
side) But more so the question that why is it all of a sudden unacceptable to
look like a women? It used to be an envy of others for some curves-but now
every women envies those with the boyish figure. The world has changed in its
view and acceptance in women’s bodies-and women have allowed it to happen. By subsuming
to the pressures it’s no longer our choice as women-but instead everyone else’s
choice.
Women now have a desire to be as small as possible instead
of just embracing the body they have. It’s no longer just accepted-but those
who have a womanly body are shamed for it. They aren't skinny enough. They aren't good enough. It’s thoughts that pop into the female head constantly. The
reality is that someone will always be skinnier than you, prettier than you,
smarter than you or faster than you. But the thing is that the female view of
the body seems to be the easiest one to rag on and sometimes the most evident
one to the individuals. By looking and judging others your also judging
yourself. I’ll admit, I've done it-looked at other girls and thought wow they
should loose some weight-but whose place is that for me to think? You don’t
know the circumstances of that person, you don’t know what is going on in that
person’s life. Everyone’s body is built differently-not only on the outside but
on the inside. Yes it sucks to see your best friend stuff her face full of
chips and not gain a pound, while you seem to eat a piece of bubble gum and
blow up. But that’s the reality-is that everyone’s body is different. I've come
to realize-and accept the fact that I will never be a size 2, it’s not the way
my body is built. And I've come to the point where I refuse to allow anyone to
make me feel bad about that.
It’s an acceptance that must be met-and yes it’s difficult.
I still have days where I feel like crap, and when I just want to stop eating
but realistically it’s not worth it. It’s not letting those people win. They
don’t know you and sometimes it’s difficult to even realize that you know
yourself. It’s a lifelong journey to accept yourself and to realize that only
so much is in your control.
Those people out there that have those views those are the
people worth ignoring, those are the people that aren't worth having in your
life. There is no reason to listen to those people. Be yourself-and accept
yourself. It’s been told to people time and time again and it’s a really
difficult process but the moment you realize that all that matters in the long
run is the way you feel about yourself.
But absolutely get healthy, feel good about yourself, if you don’t feel
good-change something. But remember that you’re a human and it’s okay to make
mistakes, it’s okay to slip up every now and then. The ultimate goal should be to
feel good about yourself and to stop
letting others dictate the way you feel about yourself.
